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OT: Could really use some prayers

Posted: 6/9/2014 10:37 AM

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Good morning my fellow purple brothers and sisters,

Friday morning just before work started my father shared with me that his doctor has given him 3 - 6 months.  Now I know Doctors are not perfect and these estimates are rarely correct, but the reality of no longer having my father his hit me very hard.  For years I hated him when I was drinking/drugging then I sobered up, but for 3 years he was still drinking.  Finally he also sobered up.  Took us a good 10 years after that, but we finally became friends and close.  He survived his massive heart attack to see my son born, then 2 years later my daughter.  Then a few years after that survived lossing 1/2 a lung to cancer and survived the chemo and radiation treatments.  Then a few years later was another bout with his heart having him have 3 more bypasses.  Then about 3 years ago a double bypass and a replacement of his Aortic valve.  Yes I've had many extra years with him than I might have had and we have grown very close, but I'm scared and sad of not having him around for much longer.  I know this is a process and he even said his last job is to teach me about death, which I know he will.  But still just very freaked out.  RIght now I'm not a 56 year old executive, husband and father.  I'm feeling like a lost 5 year old and that 5 year old is starting to win the internal battle.

Today as I"m typing this my special friend, the family dog is being put down.

Not in a good place, could really use some prayers...

Thx for the time....

Bill
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Posted: 6/9/2014 11:04 AM

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Bill,

Hang in there my friend.  Times are tough, and you can make it through.  Come out stronger on the other end.  I lost my dad in my 30's and that was tough. So my thoughts and understanding as well as prayers are with you.  There is hurt, there is pain.  Time is the only healer.  Remember what you have and had.  Joyous times were there.  Cherish them.  There has got to be a better place than here, know that your father will be there.

Stay tough my friend.  Love that moniker!
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Posted: 6/9/2014 11:26 AM

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Peace to you and your dad.  Don't dwell on the future, live for today.  Love, laugh and live.
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Posted: 6/9/2014 11:26 AM

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Agree with the poster above.  Time heals the loss of loved ones.   I lost my mom 5 months ago (im 38) and my wife lost her dad 5 years ago when she was 34.  

You just have to think about it as death being one of the few things in life that are guaranteed.  

The passing of many loved ones (lost 2 best friends at 24 and 27) has taught me to appreciate all the time I can have with my friends and family and not push them to the side in the pursuit of money, careers, travel etc...  I did that for too many years.

Just focus on all the good memories you had with him and not the bad.   Because once he is gone that is all that will matter.  Everyone remembers the best things about people they lost when it's all said and done.

So with the time you have left with him make as many good memories as possible.  And keep your chin up when it's over and be grateful for the time you had with him and that you two were able to push past your differences and issues to form a good father/son relationship before he passed.

That way there is no regret.
100% faith in the 2014 TOA Spielman/Zimmer/Turner.

Last edited 6/9/2014 11:27 AM by SurfnRide

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Posted: 6/9/2014 11:31 AM

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Judging from his past history, your father certainly has a lot of fight in him.  But as we all know, sometimes that is just not enough.  Make the most of the time you have left with him. however long that may be (good advice for all of us really when it comes to our loved ones).

And, I'm also sorry to hear about your dog.  That can be tough enough on it's own.

You're in my thoughts and prayers.
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Posted: 6/9/2014 11:35 AM

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Praying
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Posted: 6/9/2014 11:42 AM

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Focus on the time you have with each other. He needs to see you strong too because you are his legacy and staying positive will help him. Thanks for sharing and I'm pulling for both of you.
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Posted: 6/9/2014 11:49 AM

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Both you and your father are now included in my prayers.
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Posted: 6/9/2014 12:56 PM

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Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; and he will make your paths straight.

Hear  my cry, O God; listen to my prayer. From the ends of the earth I call to you, I call as my heart grows faint.; lead me to the rock that is higher than I. For you have been my refuge, a strong tower against the foe. I long to dwell in your tent forever and take refuge in the shelter of your wings.
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Posted: 6/9/2014 12:57 PM

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Bill - Thoughts and prayers to you and you family.
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Posted: 6/9/2014 1:00 PM

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Peace and prayers to you and yours.

Please keep us posted.
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Posted: 6/9/2014 1:05 PM

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Prayers to you.
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Posted: 6/9/2014 1:26 PM

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i have prayed for strength,calm and peace ofr you and your family and i will again
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Posted: 6/9/2014 2:39 PM

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Taking a little mental vacation from work right now.  Today I just don't have much energy.

My wife and kids are very upset.  None of them has ever lost a pet before.  My son can't sleep and has to work from 4pm to 2am this afternoon.

The vet did share that Fina (dogs name) was in terrible distress and immediately agreed that this was the time before she suffered any longer.  Wondering if my selfishness caused her more pain then she should have suffered through.  But all I know is she is out of pain now.  The pain I and my family feels will pass also and, like my other dogs, we'll carry the wonderful memories of her with us long after the pain of today ends.

Dad found out we put FIna down, and he came to my office and took me to a park.  Here he is dealing with his health and he was worried about how I was doing.

I just hope I can be 1/2 the man he is.....

Thx all for your prayers and words.

Bill
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Posted: 6/9/2014 2:48 PM

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Just the fact that you're concerned with your dad's health and your kids dealing with the loss of a pet, speaks volumes. Im certain your dad is very proud of you.  Good people, godo hearts will always prevail.  God Bless.
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Posted: 6/9/2014 3:02 PM

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Sorry to hear the news, Bill. I have been through similar tough times, and I'm keeping you in my thought and prayers.
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Posted: 6/9/2014 3:21 PM

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God bless you and your family
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Posted: 6/9/2014 6:06 PM

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Vikesrule73 wrote: Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; and he will make your paths straight.

Hear  my cry, O God; listen to my prayer. From the ends of the earth I call to you, I call as my heart grows faint.; lead me to the rock that is higher than I. For you have been my refuge, a strong tower against the foe. I long to dwell in your tent forever and take refuge in the shelter of your wings.
Amen Brother
May the Lord turn your sorrow into Joy...
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Posted: 6/9/2014 10:10 PM

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Through prayers we find grace

if you can imagine grace it can be yours through prayers
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Posted: 6/9/2014 10:43 PM

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Look up to The Lord Jesus Christ for strength ... He will not leave you or forsake you...
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