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Posted: 8/8/2014 1:53 PM

OT - I could use some encouragement.... 


I had to have my 11 year old lap dog put down today, several years sooner than I expected. I'll never understand how a pet could be such a nuisance and a comfort all at the same time. She was good company.

Meanwhile, my only child leaves for college on Sunday.  I can almost hear the crickets chirping as I contemplate the changes in the house's ambient noise level.

I just kicked off the grieving process by skipping ahead to the anger portion of the program. Without the dog to kick around, I had to settle for uncorking on some poor guy on the paid board.  I'd be lying if I didn't admit that administration of the thrashing didn't make me feel a little better. cool
...her words are best taken with "the usual reservations with which we might sip a patent medicine. Some may like the flavor...but it is not a cure.... Nor would we, ordinarily, place much confidence in the diagnosis of a doctor who supposes that the Hippocratic Oath is a kind of curse."
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Posted: 8/8/2014 2:09 PM

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NostraHOGus wrote: I had to have my 11 year old lap dog put down today, several years sooner than I expected. I'll never understand how a pet could be such a nuisance and a comfort all at the same time. She was good company.

Meanwhile, my only child leaves for college on Sunday.  I can almost hear the crickets chirping as I contemplate the changes in the house's ambient noise level.

I just kicked off the grieving process by skipping ahead to the anger portion of the program. Without the dog to kick around, I had to settle for uncorking on some poor guy on the paid board.  I'd be lying if I didn't admit that administration of the thrashing didn't make me feel a little better. cool

We don't do encouragement on this board.  You should know that by now. biggrin

Sorry to hear about your dog.  Excited for your daughter - as I know you are.  I guess we can go back to our theological deba...dialogues in private message if you need to just vent on someone.  biggrin

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Posted: 8/8/2014 3:17 PM

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You have my sympathy on your pet. Tough loss. When my youngest left for college thought I was losing her. But it's now been 5 years we are closes than ever and speak everyday!! She's in Oklahoma now. It really is a time of growing for child and parent.
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Posted: 8/8/2014 3:43 PM

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You have just finished part two of your life and let me say, you have to see it, but the next step will be wonderful. That is Grand Kids. You have to live it to appreciate it, but there are things about grand kids that are better even than your own children.  I'll let you know about part four soon, I am afraid, but not real soon.
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Posted: 8/8/2014 4:13 PM

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--- bobrog4 wrote:

You have just finished part two of your life and let me say, you have to see it, but the next step will be wonderful. That is Grand Kids. You have to live it to appreciate it, but there are things about grand kids that are better even than your own children.  I'll let you know about part four soon, I am afraid, but not real soon.

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Grand kids are great!!! Life is moving slower, not as busy and you don't have to do the raising. Just take the time to smell the roses.
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Posted: 8/8/2014 4:14 PM

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There was a time before you didn't have your daughter or dog in your Life. She is going to college she isn't gone. Remember the good things about your pet and the life you shared. then go to the local shelter there is a lap dog there waiting for you to bring him/her home. Tell your daughter you love her, enjoy school and call as often as she would like. Then as some have stated start living the next part of life. Learn to sail, ski, or maybe volunteer the only sad thing is you not living your life and remembering the life you had.
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Posted: 8/8/2014 4:26 PM

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Sorry about the dog. Most of us have done it. To avoid it, you can raise a parrot or a tortoise. Not quite the same.

The family had a Yorkie who got Parvo when I was in college, but home for the summer. It was before there was a vaccine. She fought so long that the vet thought she was going to make it -- then she didn't.

The Yorkie before her wandered off one day and got into a fight with a German Shepherd. FCS vs FBS. Vet called and said someone had brought him in. So we went down to the vet and they tried to sew him up and thought he was going to make it. Then he didn't. That would have been 1971. I still do not like German Shepherds.

The third Yorkie, acquired when I was in college, lived long enough to spend her last days with us and my kids after my Mom had a stroke  -- so my kids think of her as a grumpy old beech (er, the Yorkie and not the grandmother, at least I hope), and I remember her as a frisky puppy (the Yorkie, not Mom).

Our youngest child heads off to William & Mary next week to follow his older brother and sister. He got the nickname "Arkansas" in high school because he wore a Razorback hoodie a lot.

I'm sure my wife and I did lots of fun stuff before we had kids, but I'm having a hard time remember just exactly what it was. I remember I taught myself how to program in C (oh my god). I know she studied a lot for her architecture license exam.  Last night, as some here can attest, I watched an entire game of PRE-SEASON professional football. That's scary. At least I had a Mallett /Hocker excuse.
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Posted: 8/8/2014 8:08 PM

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Sorry about the loss!

Where is your daughter going to college? I suppose the real question is, is it driveable for you? A road trip and Sunday lunch would surely be something to look forward to!!!
Keep a light on . . . 
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Posted: 8/8/2014 8:30 PM

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So sorry to hear about the family members, my friend.  I certainly understand, at least about the four legged one. Pain, loneliness, anger, bitterness, all will come through at some point.  Praying for ya.
Keep a light on some patrols are still out! - RIP over50hog
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Posted: 8/8/2014 11:01 PM

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Nostra-Sorry for your loss. Now you know they are mans best friend.
My only child has finished college almost. (Masters Degree still lacking)

I volunteer my services as a "whipping boy" so you can rant and vent as needed to someone if this will help with your grieving process. I promise only minimal backtalk during this process.

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Posted: 8/9/2014 9:42 AM

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Always saddens me to hear of someone losing their 4-legged friends.  They're family and they'll let you know it every day.  I hope you and Dos will both get back into the puppy business soon.  There are lots of 'friends' out there looking for their forever homes and they give unconditionally.






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Posted: 8/9/2014 12:16 PM

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the farther we get from things past the more revisionist history creeps in.
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Posted: 8/9/2014 4:06 PM

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Sorry to hear about your dog.  Your daughter, well, sorry for you but happy for her.  Hope she stays safe and does well.

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Posted: 8/9/2014 4:15 PM

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Dogs are loyal and love you. Cats just use you to get what they want.

You can own a dog.  The Cat owns you.
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Posted: 8/9/2014 10:52 PM

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Thanks very much for the kind words.  I took the opportunity to reflect on things today, and I realize how blessed I am compared to many people.

It's amazing how predictable our emotions can be when we experience loss.  Today, the guilt set in, as though freeing a loyal friend from a painful end was a crime of some sort (after spending $500 to confirm what I already suspected).  The truth is, most of us would spare no expense for something or someone that was important to us, but at some point, we must ask who is truly benefiting from the investment. The irony of letting a pet or a family member go is that the people left behind are the only ones still in pain.

Tomorrow should be an adventure.  Many of you have heard the story about ASU outflanking the U of A and my Hendrix alma mater to secure the attendance of my daughter. I'll never criticize a recruit or a recruit's parents again, because as much as I may have nudged her in another direction, her ultimate decision was pretty solid.

The biggest factor was that ASU offered the big scholarship first, and they treated her like she has already accepted from the moment they offered.  Fayetteville and Hendrix came through in a big way as well, but by the time the final numbers were sorted, she had already made up her mind.

Since then, she has thrown the "wolf ears" with the governor and been re-tweeted by the ASU President.  When I asked about her high profile photo opportunities, she said, "Come on, Dad. I'm just trying to use social media to get to know the right people!"

I wonder how would she have  have managed if all she had was a self correcting typewriter like her father carried on his first trip to college?  Back then, the internet was printed on something called "paper," and parts of it were collected in "libraries."   (High five if you have a working knowledge of the Dewey decimal and card catalog system.)

I am told I am expected to wear a shirt that says "ASU Dad" tomorrow.  No photos or video will be authorized.

...her words are best taken with "the usual reservations with which we might sip a patent medicine. Some may like the flavor...but it is not a cure.... Nor would we, ordinarily, place much confidence in the diagnosis of a doctor who supposes that the Hippocratic Oath is a kind of curse."
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